• John Parmigiani

#3 Master Your Inner Voice

Have you listened to what you've been saying to yourself lately? If not, you should be. We talk to ourselves all of the time and what we are saying to ourselves influences our decisions, behaviors and outcomes.

Each of us has an inner voice that is talking to us all the time with a very strong opinion on every aspect of our life.

It’s either pumping us up, or putting us down. It’s either filling us with thoughts of confidence, hope and inspiration, or with thoughts of fear, worry and confusion.

There doesn’t seem to be a middle ground. So knowing what our inner voice is saying is important.

When you allow your inner voice to iterate phrases such as, “I’ll never do it,” or “It’ll be another disappointment for me,” or “Things never go right,” or " Its too difficult," you are talking yourself into that exact situation. You begin to expect the worst and are actually setting yourself up to fail.

"Those who believe they can are right, unfortunately so are those who think they can't"

The opposite kind of “self-talk” has an empowering effect. Phrases such as, “I can do it,” or “I’m a champion,” or “I always come through,” or "I got this", will reinforce your belief in yourself.

Positive self-talk gives you moral support to keep on keeping on.

Tell yourself enough times you’re a loser and you’ll believe it. Tell yourself over and over that you’re destined for greatness and that’s what you’ll accept.

We can’t stop the inner voice, but we can choose what it will say. We can make sure that it is a positive force in our life.

Be selective with what you say to yourself and be vigilant.

Here's a great poem by Edgar A. Guest.:

Can't is the worst word that's written or spoken; Doing more harm here than slander and lies; 

On it is many a strong spirit broken, And with it many a good purpose dies. 

It springs from the lips of the thoughtless each morning And robs us of courage we need through the day: 

It rings in our ears like a timely-sent warning And laughs when we falter and fall by the way. 

Can't is the father of feeble endeavor, The parent of terror and half-hearted work; 

It weakens the efforts of artisans clever, And makes of the toiler an indolent shirk. 

It poisons the soul of the man with a vision, It stifles in infancy many a plan; 

It greets honest toiling with open derision And mocks at the hopes and the dreams of a man.

Can't is a word none should speak without blushing; To utter it should be a symbol of shame; 

Ambition and courage it daily is crushing; It blights a man's purpose and shortens his aim. 

Despise it with all of your hatred of error; Refuse it the lodgment it seeks in your brain; 

Arm against it as a creature of terror, And all that you dream of you some day shall gain.

Can't is the word that is foe to ambition, An enemy ambushed to shatter your will;

Its prey is forever the man with a mission And bows but to courage and patience and skill. 

Hate it, with hatred that's deep and undying, For once it is welcomed 'twill break any man;

Whatever the goal you are seeking, keep trying And answer this demon by saying: "I Can"

* Much of the information above is directly quoted from or is my interpretation of readings in a book by John Kehoe; Money Success & You: Harness Your Mind to Achieve Prosperity 



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